An unsolicited letter to creepy guy at the pool

Dear 55-year old man at the pool (I know your age because you told me),

This afternoon you arrived with your little girls and helped them recover their footing after going down the water slide. It was very attentive of you and I'm sure they appreciated your presence. However, when you started helping other girls recover their footing, I wondered why the lifeguard didn't tell you that you weren't actually allowed to be there. I only saw you assist one girl who did not arrive with you and I gave you the benefit of the doubt. I had no idea that I would have reason to approach you later.

When my daughter came to ask me if we could buy french fries, I was a curious as to why my girls were sitting at a table with you. I assumed that maybe they had introduced themselves to your girls or maybe you had introduced your girls to them in order to help them find playmates at the pool. However, your girls were not sitting with you. My girls quickly changed tables to one I chose when I brought the fries over.

A short while later, I heard that you offered candy to two of my children and a family friend while the oldest was away from the concession area. I also heard that the two younger ones accepted and you told them "don't tell your mom." When I confronted you about it, you admitted the situation and your wrong doing, including an apology. I told you that the situation raises red flags all over the place. What I didn't ask you about and it gives me a strong level of unease, is that my girls later told me that they were sitting at the table when you alone approached them and asked if you could sit with them. They thought that was weird and they are right. I won't even get into how many more flags became red with this information.

Rather than go into all the different emotions and questions I have at this time, I will simply thank you. Today I had opportunity to learn how my children react in what might be a potentially dangerous situation with strangers. I thought they had it drilled into them to not accept anything from strangers. I thought they knew to come get me if an adult they don't know is too close to them or talks to them. You helped me learn that we need to do more to prepare our kids with what to do. At this very moment, my kids are once again watching The Safe Side, and I have emphasized over and over that you were in their "safe side circle" and you are a "don't know."

From now on, when I see you at the pool, I will be watching you. I will be watching every move you make and will not hesitate to get pool management involved and I will not hesitate to call the police.

Sincerely,
A loving and caring mom with good instincts.